Hi my name is Jagi. I'm a successful professional in a great career. I have a great family around me and loyal friends. You don't really need anything else in life. So why did I have such low self esteem and why wasn't I happy? Read on and you will see why I reached out to Davie and DMC for coaching.
Before my coaching sessions, I constantly worried about what others were thinking of me. I thought they were always judging me and didn't want to stand out from the crowd. Even though deep down inside I wanted to be noticed and be individual. I wanted to be liked. This behaviour meant I had (or what I thought) a very mundane life and eventually led me to not have an opinion. Shy, reserved and scared to speak.
I would never really enjoy the moment- I would always think ahead, or try and regulate how much fun I was having.
Not a good place to be. I would analyse everything, every conversation, what others thought of me, and even what I thought of myself when I looked in the mirror. Always negative thoughts.
After my first session I didn't know what to think. It was nice to chat to somebody that just listened.
Davie did ask some probing questions, but nothing intimidating.
At first I didn't really know how to answer them but just tried to be honest and try to understand how I really felt.
I got emotional, for what I thought was no reason. Then felt an instant release of tension and felt more relaxed afterwards.
I was apprehensive at first but I trusted in what Davie was doing. I found it quite difficult to be so vulnerable at first.
Now I realise that this is our real self and what makes us unique. This vulnerability is what draws people to us and liberates us. It allows us to be comfortable in our own skin.
Davie asked me to monitor my thoughts and emotions by keeping a gratitude journal over the first few weeks.
At first, I found this very difficult to do; a bit of a chore. I persevered with it and after a week or so I started feeling more positive. I started to appreciate how much I had going for me and that there was something for me to look forward to every single day. I already led a fulfilled life- now I just realised I did.
For me, the second and third sessions were less intense. I went in, as always, with an open mind and just chatted with Davie. I had no idea what he was doing but by the end of each session, I realised past circumstances and experiences had been affecting my thoughts and controlling my life.
I have now learned to accept them and don't blame myself for acting the way I did... I just simply didn't know any better.
Throughout the whole process, I and others, have noticed a positive change in my attitude and outlook. I appreciate that life is always going to have its ups and downs, and life's circumstance will not always go in your favour, but I cannot thank Davie enough for giving me the tools to protect my mind and make good of any situation.